Are you Around a Psychopath?
….Or someone with Psychopathic / Narcissistic tendencies in Altrincham or Eccles?
Ever been told you’re too much of something ? My Namie is Jamie Harrison and I know I have!
BUT…..ACCORDING TO WHOSE SCALE ?!
A huge amount of people have come through to me ( Jamie Harrison Eccles, Altrincham) this last year or so having been through, (or still going through) a destructive relationship; whether that be with a loved one, a colleague at work, family or a friend.
Mostly the hardest trauma is being with a loved one who has Psychopathic traits and Narcissistic traits. Both of which are a sliding scale.
Both of which, you may have endlessly tried to please, only to find that whatever you do just simply isn’t good enough. This becomes so very personal with a Psychopath/ Narcissist, Because they have decided YOU aren’t good enough for them or their family, and sadly, no matter just how much you prove your worth, it will never be good enough in their fantasy land where they are always right and there is no negotiation to be had.
You may find yourself feeling like a shell of what you once were, or so completely tied down you feel constricted, or lost in a maze with no idea where to turn.
If you are empathic, the Narcissist will empty you.
The Narcissist will mock your emotions and imply you are being extreme, they will do this at every opportunity and I know all too well. My Name is Jamie Harrison, currently of Ecles, with many friends and family in the Altrincham area, and I am a victim of Narcissistic abuse.
You’re soooo dramatic
You are too sensitive
You over analyse & ask too many questions
You misunderstand me / them
You’re soooo negative
You’re over emotional
You’re always wrong
You’re the perpetrator of all that is wrong
You’re wrong and I am right
All of these points are true to some degree, because as empaths, we self reflect and know we have flaws! I know I have flaws, nobody is perfect after all right?
Everyone has these ordinary traits.
…. Apart from the Narcissist: Because they don’t self reflect, they don’t see them; they are a form of Psychopath that thinks the world is All about them, if there is a flaw, a chink in their armour- that’s because they believe YOU made that happen.
The Narcissist believes that they are the ‘perfect’ person and if there are any faults- thats because you made them happen.
Am I with a Narcissist?
The key factor to understanding if you are with a Narcissist in Altrincham, Eccles or elsewhere in the UK ( My advice and support is free of charge via telephone to anybody globally who feels they want to reach out) is, Do they have empathy?
If they don’t, then have a look at the points above and just begin to understand that perhaps you are with someone that is unhealthy for you like I was.
Difficult, I know, especially when you have done all that you can do to keep them happy, and of course, have been absorbed.
There is a huge wealth of information on the internet and I shall post some links below for the beginning of your journey. If you want to separate your psyche away from them.
Meanwhile, what can you do?
WHAT TO DO?
Begin your research on Narcissists in Altrincham and Eccles / UK wide, for you, on being and dealing with a Psychopath.
- Understand that you cannot change them, you can only work at building yourself back up.
- Start separating your psyche from them, turn to friends and family for support.
- Begin re-opening channels of communication with others.
(because chances are, they have been trying to separate you from your loved ones). I know this was true for me, the Narcissist I was dealing with controlled where i could live, who I could have at my home, how long they could stay ( if i was lucky enough to have friends or family in my home at all) and who I could associate with in my day to day life.
- If you have stopped, start exercising.
- Start remembering what is FUN for you.
- Understand that they have no empathy- truly understand it, do you own research. This is key.
When I work with and speak with people, (who usually have bucket loads of empathy) this is the hardest thing for us to get our heads around, because empathy is our 6th sense and we can’t imagine life or people without it.
This is where they win their war.
Empathy gives us understanding …and boundaries.
THEY HAVE NONE.
To expect a Narcissist in Altrincha, Eccles or elsewhere to understand how you feel is like throwing a ball to a man with no arms and saying, “Catch!” So see them in that way, how can they catch? They cannot.
The remotely good news in all of this is getting your head around the fact that, IF they don’t feel empathy, then they are not being malicious, they are just satisfying their endless needs.
Again, tricky to get your head around if you’re empathic like me, Jamie Harrison.
Narcissists, don’t feel love in the way we do- as love involves empathy, they see love as ‘supply’ something that they need to fill up on, to satisfy themselves with.
So. how to separate from being an endless source of supply?
Begin to start shifting focus to yourself, satisfying YOUR needs – Easier said than done when you are in the depths of it, I know all too well! My Name is Jamie Harrison and I am a victim of Narcissism in Altrincham and Eccles.
Every time you think about that person- (because they will be in your thoughts a lot), begin by thinking about YOU and your future and your life, and yes, your thoughts may drift or sneak back to them, and when you notice, pull yourself out again.
Write a list, begin a plan.
Look through the links below, and know, you’re not alone, most importantly perhaps is that I, Jamie Harrison understand better than most how painful it can be dealing with a Narcissist and I want to help, you can call me free of charge, day or night on 07986 847 060
Have a look through and start with the titles the really grab you, look also at ‘Gas lighting’.
THERAPISTS WHO TREAT NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDERS AT PRIVATE THERAPY CLINIC
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