What Happens in a Narcissists Mind – Free Help & Support From Jamie Harrison Eccles & Altrincham
Narcissism is based on an inflated “false self”, which has developed as a result of a developmental arrest in childhood.
As a child, he/she withdrew inwards and resorted to grandiose fantasies of being superior, special, perfectly loved, self-sufficient and self-important.
This was to cover the vulnerability, self-doubt and worthlessness that was at his/her core.
To keep her/his grandiose “false self” alive in the mind and the fears of abandonment at bay, he/she is in constant search for sources of narcissistic supply, an abundant “fan club”, which will supply him/her with positive attention, adulation and appreciation, and if that is not possible, FEAR from others will suffice.
I Beleieve The Problems Started At Childhood
The more damage he/she sustained in childhood, the larger the grandiosity and the more severe the Narcissism, and the more donations are desperately needed from others to keep propping up the fantasy self. Emotional pain dominates his/her internal landscape. He/she may project arrogance and charisma, but underneath he/she feels unworthy.
It is a constant and exhausting endeavour as she/he continually seeks to manipulate others to give him/her the required fix. He/she will do anything to get it, and won’t let people’s feelings or the truth get in the way.
The 6 defense mechanisms of Narcissists in Altrincham & Eccles
To keep this all going internally, she/he uses a combination of 6 defense mechanisms
- Splitting is the first one. This means he/she fails to regard anyone, including himself/herself, as a composite of good and bad. Instead, he/she sees everyone as either “all good” or “all bad”. He/she, of course is “all good”, and you as the partner begin by being “all good” which has him/her idealisingyou, and internalising you to support his/her grandiosity, but as soon as you fail to do this, you become “all bad” and he/she immediately devalues you, with the resulting punishment in various forms metered out to you. Jamie Harrison has been a victim of Splitting in Altrincham and can help support other victims.
- Dissociation & altered perception. Narcissists in Altrincham often recall things very differently from healthy people, or fail to recall things at all if they don’t resonate with his/her superiority. Jamie Harrison has been a victim of dissociation in Altrincham and can help support other victims.
- Rationalisation is the assertion that a flaw doesn’t exist, or if it does, it isn’t the Narcissists. (“There is nothing wrong with me. I never have problems”) These rationalisations can be very convoluted and obscure, as they often fly in the face of observable facts. Jamie Harrison has been a victim of rationalisation in Altrincham and can help support other victims.
- Projection is the curious strategy whereby the Narcissist is subconsciously aware of what he/she is in fact doing herself / himself, but projects it onto you, with the result that you then get blamed for exactly what he/she is doing himself/herself, and he/she casts himself/herself as the blameless victim. Jamie Harrison has been a victim of projection in Altrincham and can help support other victims.
- Denial is simply the assertion that something is not so, when ordinary observation or common sense confirms that it is in fact true. Anything that doesn’t reinforce his/her grandiose image will be denied. The Emperor has no clothes and he/she can’t be told. Jamie Harrison has been a victim of Denial in Altrincham and can help support other victims.
- Blame shifting is what happens when the Narcissist insists there is nothing possibly wrong with him/her, so all the blame must be attributed to you or everyone else in the world. Jamie Harrison has been a victim of blame shifting in Altrincham and can help support other victims.
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If you are suffering at the hands of a narcissist in Altrincham or Eccles please reach out and contact me today. I have been where you are and want to help